Not sexy. Not sensual. Just me.

Can we be okay with fat bodies simply because we can be okay with all bodies? 

Can we just accept fatness instead of explaining why fat is okay? 

Messages that fat is beautiful, fat is sexy, curves are sensual, or that “men like curves”, all tell me that my right to exist is based on my attractiveness to others. 

I am worthy because I am alive. I am fat. I don’t need that to be explained away with other descriptors. 

The body positivity messages I am receiving are that it is okay to be fat if I am either sexy or beautiful. 

What if I am neither of those? 

Does that mean I am excluded?  

I am not beautiful

I don’t have to be beautiful to be worthy. 

My appearance and my value are not dependent on one another. 

I don’t need to be told that I have a pretty face, or nice curves, or that I’m not fat I “have fat”, because my body does not define me. 

No one has to be beautiful. From one spectrum of the BMI to another, you are not required to be beautiful. I am not “beautiful” I am simply a perfectly imperfect human. 

Body positivity means actively accepting all people in their rawness. 

Real Life Fat People