Art is about making a connection

Art is about making a connection

Sunday, 30 April 2017

accept that you are worthy, cherished, and loved

April of Acceptance Daily Idea: accept that you are worthy, cherished, and loved. 



I believe in my heart, that this poem was written for me. 


It was written by my protector. By the one who had my back, and still does from far across the ocean. By the young boy who told the bullies what colour my (ugly) plastic sandals were. 


Read the words. Let them sink into all your empty places.



Let them fill you. 


You are loved. 



Beautiful Warriors of Dreams

April 27, 2017 by Sasha Rising


There is no great discovering to lead us to happiness.


There is no place or person or time.
Trying to be happy is a pursuit in itself,
and pursuits lead to disappointments.


We must just be.


Just be as we are,
day-to-day.


We are a thousand times more beautiful
than our fears would have us believe.


We are the Warriors of Dreams
escaping daylight’s siege.


Know that You are worthy.


Know that our time with You is cherished.


Know that we are inspired by You
and cry for Your suffering.


Know that You are as beautiful as You feel
in the arms of those You love.


For it really is You reflected.


That beauty is You.


https://sasharising.wordpress.com


Be kind,

To yourself too

xo



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Friday, 28 April 2017

Never give up. You are wonderfully you

Do you remember where you were 20 years ago today? 


I do. 



It was the night that Ellen Degeneres "came out" on national television. I was in university and a big group of us got together to watch it. We were squished into a small apartment and we were all very aware of the importance of that moment. 




It seems like such a small thing. So Ellen's character said "I'm gay" in an episode? Why does that matter? 



It matters because 20 years ago, it made her lose her job. It matters because many of us are still closeted. Coming out had a huge impact on her life and her career, and it also paved the way for other queer people. Not just celebrities. 



I often forget that I live in a city that has a gay village.



I surround myself with accepting people. And have never faced (explicit) homophobia in my family. I am often complacent because of my privilege and my personal experiences. Once when I was 18, I was feeling very alone in my sexuality. My best friend Georgia said "I am probably the only half lesbian, completely heterosexual person you know ... My mom is from Athens, my Dad is from Lesbos. That makes me half Athenian and half Lesbian." It was a small act of kindness, and also days of giggles, but it made a major effect on my self worth. 


IN Toronto, there are still many spaces that are not welcoming, that are not safe. That are, in fact, dangerous.  IN Toronto, there are still many spaces that are not welcoming, that are not safe. That are, in fact, dangerous. 




Hate is taught. Tolerance is not the same as acceptance. Fear of sharing anything outside of heteronormativity is valid, is real, is understandable, is life altering, is suffocating, is deadly. 


Ellen Degeneres makes a bazillion dollars and is accepted because of her fame. Her privilege does not diminish her courage and her strength. Nor does it diminish the message she sent to the world. 



In my life, being queer has been fairly uneventful. It is not at the forefront of my identity like it did in my 20s. I am first and foremost a partner, a daughter, a sister, a friend, a teacher, a writer, and a lover of foxes. And yet, there are still moments where being queer matters. Moments like being in a theatre with several thousand LGBTQ people singing with the Orlando choir a few months after the massacre at Pulse night club. 49 people died that night. 49 families and friends lost someone to hate. Hundreds of lives were changed. And thousands of people around the world felt the gut-wrenching pain, loss, and fear. 


Being in that theatre, singing along with the choir, crying with each other, holding hands and hugging strangers ... being queer was forefront to me then. It was a powerful, painful, wonderful, horrible, beautiful experience. 



It was an experience that reminded me that I am hated. Hated simply because of who I fell in love with and choose to spend my life with, not because of my actions or words. Not because of who I am. 


(You can watch the speech and the song here: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=U1urPSxm7Gc please be prepared for self-care and support if you are feeling vulnerable) 



On this day, 20 years ago, Ellen Degeneres told the world that it is more than okay to say "I'm gay". 





Tonight I send love to my community of queers. 

To Singing Out! Chorus. 


To the men being tortured in Chechnya. 


To the people all over the world where being queer is against the law and comes with serious consequences, sometimes death. 


To the queer and questioning kids. 


To my trans family and friends. 


To the people ostracized by family, community, and their faith. 


Our resilience is in our commitment to each other, to social justice, to human rights.


Never give up. You are wonderfully you. 


xo ❤️




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Wednesday, 26 April 2017

accept no excepts.

April of Acceptance Daily Idea: accept no excepts



You are beautiful. As you are. No exceptions. 



Not, you are beautiful except you need to lose a few pounds. Not, you're beautiful except you need a flat stomach, a tighter butt, bigger breasts, smaller breasts ... 


YOU 


ARE


BEAUTIFUL


BECAUSE YOU EXIST. 



Be kind,

To yourself too

xo



***NOTE: "acceptance" in the context of my writing is about the belief that all living things are entitled to respect, regardless of their actions and beliefs. "Acceptance" in this context is NOT about being silent, ignoring injustices and self and others, or expecting that we can say something is okay when it isn't. In this context I am referring to the idea that we cannot control what happens around us, we can only control how to respond to those things. 



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Monday, 24 April 2017

Unapologetic

April of Acceptance Daily Idea: be you, unapologetically you. 



Never apologize for being you. 


You are imperfectly perfect. 




You are loved. 


You ARE love. 


Be kind,

To yourself too

xo


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Sunday, 23 April 2017

accept that there things you can never accept

TRIGGER WARNING for art and writing (concentration camps, holocaust, persecution, violence) 



April of Acceptance Daily Idea: accept that there things you can never accept. 


I haven't written in days. I haven't wanted to. The idea of writing down words about acceptance has felt disingenuous. 


I know that I have a disclaimer for this month's topic of "Acceptance". This week I am struggling with the topic; Personally, professionally, and politically. 


So I have been ruminating and deciding whether or not I wanted to use this blog as a platform for my current non-acceptance of global events. 


I want to talk about concentration camps existing in 2017. 


I'm not convinced that the significance of this atrocity is sinking in around the world. 


In Chechnya, gay men are being put in concentration camps and (legally) brutally beaten by their kidnappers. 


This is not 1933. 


This alone should make the world take notice. Homophobia is so globally-rampant and accepted that we don't have world leaders stepping in with sanctions and bans and boycotts. LGBTQ people are subhuman. 


But .... who will be next? 



I don't know how to phrase this thought in any other way than how I am going to write it. I want to first apologize in advance for how it may come across. I mean it respectfully. 


I find that, as a faith, Jehovah's Witnesses are very close to the bottom of the religious hierarchy. They are the punchline for jokes. They are seen and commented on as the crazy religious zealots who knock on your door and try to convert you. 


I was raised as an atheist. I have my own beliefs. They are irrelevant here. Faith interests me. I research many faiths. I ask people of many faiths a whole lot of questions. I only mention faith here because I think it's important to state that I am not writing this as a religious post. This post is about my inability to accept persecution and hate. 


This week in Russia, the Supreme Court ruled that JWs are "extremists", and banned JW in the country. This means it is against the law to be JW. It is illegal to practice the faith. All JW property is seized by the government. People who practice JW can be jailed. 


Why am I talking about this in a post about my inability to accept? 


I am scared. 


I am scared that it will be "easier" or "convenient" to jail JWs in the concentration camps in Chechnya where gay men are being held. 


And then, who will be next? 


I'm jumping the gun. I'm overreacting. I'm fear mongering. I'm conjecturing. Or maybe I'm thinking historically. Maybe I'm thinking that acts of hate declared as acts of public safety are a slippery slope to persecution and genocide. 


In 2013, I had the opportunity to go to Hitler's lair, named  "Eagle's Nest" (Kehlsteinhaus). 




I rode in his elevator and wondered who he would have had in there with him. 




I stood at his fireplace and wondered what was discussed and decided there. 



In 2013, I had the opportunity, and honour, to visit Mauthausen Concentration Camp. 


I saw where people were jailed, left to die, and/or murdered. 


I am not minimizing the genocide of Jews in WWII. My intention here is to draw attention to other groups targeted by Nazi Germany. And the ways in which targeting a religious group only leads to more hate and more violence. My purpose is to bring awareness to the fact that hate leads to hate and we have historical examples of this since the beginning of time. But we also have people alive RIGHT NOW. Survivors of concentration camps and death camps. This isn't a long ago part of history that sits in a textbook. We have people in concentration camps TODAY. 


One of the groups targeted by Hitler's regime were Jehovah's Witnesses. 


Mauthuasen was not a Jewish death camp. It was a concentration camp. That's where people outside of, or against, the Nazi regime were jailed. This camp held people from all over Europe whose crimes were based on following particular religions, being LGBTQ, being a political resistor, or speaking out. 



The photo in the top left corner is of the swimming pool the guards used for recreation, in front of the jail. The bottom right photo is the code used to label the prisoners' clothing to identify their "crime". I have left out the photos of the oven, the place where people were hung, and the barracks where the sick were left to die beside the soccer field where spectators came to watch professional matches. I left out the photos that show how close the nearest farms were. 


Respect and diversity and religious freedoms are important aspects of our society. Are there groups of people who, in the name of religion, create "extremist" groups that harm or cause violence and death? Of course there are. Isis, Westboro Baptist Church ... 


To declare an entire religion "extremist" is dangerous. To question a religion, to explore its tenants, to confront its beliefs is our right. To call a particular group using a religion to justify violence and murder as "extremist" is entirely different than making a law to say the entire religion is outlawed. The fact that a government can outlaw an entire faith is terrifying to me. 


We do not get to pick and choose whose rights are human rights. 


We DO get to decide how to live our lives and how to treat others.


Be kind,

To yourself too

xo



(I am including the link to this post because it feels related. https://www.someecards.com/news/politics/white-supremacist-muslim-history/)


***NOTE: "acceptance" in the context of my writing is about the belief that all living things are entitled to respect, regardless of their actions and beliefs. "Acceptance" in this context is NOT about being silent, ignoring injustices and self and others, or expecting that we can say something is okay when it isn't. In this context I am referring to the idea that we cannot control what happens around us, we can only control how to respond to those things. 



*All images are property of Fox Tales Art

**All images are available for sale with profits going to www.sheenasplace.org 


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Monday, 17 April 2017

reply to a compliment with a simple "thank you

April of Acceptance Daily Idea: reply to a compliment with a simple "thank you".


This may be the hardest acceptance suggestion so far! How many times are you given a compliment to which you respond with all the reasons why whatever you are being complimented on is untrue? 



1: "You're such a great friend." 

2: "I'm just doing what I would want someone to do for me." 


1: "you are so kind."

2: "I try. Sometimes I'm so selfish."


1: "you're very talented."

2: "I'm still learning."


1: "this soup is delicious!"

2: "oh thanks, it needs more salt though."


Am I right? 


Being modest is socially acceptable. Celebrating yourself is sometimes considered boastful. 



The things I explain away:

  • My masters degree
  • My art
  • This blog
  • Things I do for friends 
  • Things I do for strangers 
  • My teaching practice 


Let's try to own our compliments by replying with a simple "thank you". 


The voice in your head will say all the things. You can listen. And you can keep it as a voice in your head. We don't need to explain away what is wonderful in ourselves, or about ourselves, or our accomplishments. 


Be kind,

To yourself too

xo



***NOTE: "acceptance" in the context of my writing is about the belief that all living things are entitled to respect, regardless of their actions and beliefs. "Acceptance" in this context is NOT about being silent, ignoring injustices and self and others, or expecting that we can say something is okay when it isn't. In this context I am referring to the idea that we cannot control what happens around us, we can only control how to respond to those things. 




*All images are property of Fox Tales Art

**All images are available for sale with profits going to www.sheenasplace.org 


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Sunday, 16 April 2017

accept that indulgence is not a crime

April of Acceptance Daily Idea: accept that indulgence is not a crime. 


To indulge means to allow yourself to enjoy pleasure. 



"Indulge" is not a negative word. Indulgence is not selfish. It's not gross. It is simply accepting that there are pleasures in the world and that you are ALLOWED to actually enjoy them! 


You deserve to nourish yourself. You deserve to eat food packed with nutrients. You deserve to have a bowl of fruit on your counter, to put fresh berries in your yogurt, to eat piles of steamed vegetables, or crunchy salads. 


You deserve to take pleasure in your food. Tell the voice in your head that is saying words like "cheat", "junk", "bad", "fat", to SHUT UP!!!! You don't have to "make up for it" tomorrow. You don't need to feel guilty for celebrations that involve food.  


There are no good or bad foods. There is only food. Eating balanced nutrition is important. Choosing not to deprive yourself on celebratory days is equally important. 



Teaching your children to make "healthy choices" includes teaching them to enjoy chocolate without guilt. 


So eat the lamb korma, turkey, ham, haroset, raspberry macaroons, pork chops, apple matzo cake, mashed potatoes, flaunes, gravy, injera, cheese smothered broccoli, haleem, coconut kheer, koulouraka, Easter bread, scalloped potatoes, mithai, dinner rolls, keftdes arni, samosa, cranberry sauce, karajni, butter, kitfo, cakes, cookies, pastries, cheese trays, aloo tikki, chocolate bunnies and eggs, and ANY OTHER FOOD YOU WANT TO EAT!!! 


Depriving yourself simply makes you deprived. 



YOU DESERVE TO NOURISH YOURSELF AND THAT INCLUDES GUILT-FREE ENJOYMENT OF ANY FOOD THAT YOU WANT AT YOUR CELEBRATORY DINNER AND NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO JUDGE OR COMMENT ... NOT EVEN YOU!!!! 


Be kind,

To yourself too

xo



***NOTE: "acceptance" in the context of my writing is about the belief that all living things are entitled to respect, regardless of their actions and beliefs. "Acceptance" in this context is NOT about being silent, ignoring injustices and self and others, or expecting that we can say something is okay when it isn't. In this context I am referring to the idea that we cannot control what happens around us, we can only control how to respond to those things. 



*All images are property of Fox Tales Art

**All images are available for sale with profits going to www.sheenasplace.org 


Email foxtaleskira@gmail.com for inquiries (Purchasing directly by email, even if the piece is on etsy, saves both of us money and can involve a negotiation in size and in price)


Or browse some options at 

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